Mediation Coming Soon

betrayal elder abuseWell, we went to court. The lawyer for the foursome, as I’ve come to consider them, tried hard to pull a few fast ones. Luckily, a lawyer that we spoke to on Monday, before the court hearing, had already agreed to stand up for me so that I wouldn’t have to speak to the judge myself. In the end, it was a hilarious day, but now, mediation is coming soon.

April 24, 2018

I have never been in a courtroom enough to see two lawyers butt head…But I managed to on this day. First, the foursome’s lawyer pulled me aside and tried really hard to find out if I’d drop the case. I said, “no”. So, she came back stating that they would not sue me for their legal fees if I agreed to drop it now. That kind of annoyed me. I did not know that they were suing me for their legal fees, but the idea that they would say, “we will drop it, so you do not have to pay $3,000.00 irked me.” I mean $73,000-dollar piece of land vs $3,000. First and foremost, My dad invested more than they invested in a lawyer before he died…and Allen could have matched it with what he put into above and beyond what dad put into it. She must not be that great a lawyer…Plus, their rush to end it, makes me think they are scared. Anyway…I told her “NO. I have a case and I’m not quitting”. Then, Mr. Tucker came into the room and I pretty much fell down waiting to get out of the courtroom….

The Lawyers Go Head to Head

In 30 seconds or less, I got to watch the foursome’s lawyer fail. She stood up and immediately stated that she wanted it to go to trial that day. Mr. Trucker piped up with, “that’s not possible. It is slated to be a jury trial and there is no jury. They haven’t even done mediation yet.” Their lawyer looked at the judge and said, “I don’t remember seeing that.” To which the lawyer that I had spoken to for less than an hour the day before, asked for my files and produced the document that would prove it was a jury trial and said, “Its right here”. Their lawyer shuffles paper for a minute and says, “I’m sorry your honor. It was my oversight.” And she went to sit down. I thanked Mr. Tucker and walked out. The foursome walked out before we did, and one of them stated, I think it was dads brother, “I knew it wouldn’t work”. They tried to force my hand and failed…in front of a judge. I cannot imagine that puts them in a positive light. I say, perhaps it is no wonder they only have paid her $3,000. Anyway…the judge said since it has to go to mediation before trial, he suggested we do mediation as soon as possible. So, we continue to fight elder abuse for a little longer. Not that my fight will ever end.

After the Courtroom

End Elderly AbuseThe foursome’s lawyer somehow found my email by Wednesday after court, suggesting we set up a mediation immediately. It was stated in court that I was searching for legal council still, so I used that. She told me that she would be in contact on Monday to find out about a date. On Friday, before then, I talked to another lawyer who may be interested in taking the case, which once again gets their lawyer off me…However, a week later and still no word as to whether he will actually take the case or not. I am praying that he does. Without him, I am not sure that I will stand a chance. I never would have caught that there were other things to do before going to a jury trial like Tucker did. I am 100% grateful that he was there for me to stand up with me…and if his caseload wasn’t so heavy, I’d gladly be hiring him, just as a thank you for what he did on April 24. Either way, for now, Jack Parkinson’s battle is still raging on!!!!

Another Abuse Victim

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Since dad passed away, things have slowed to a crawl as far as the pending case against him and everything else. However, my eyes have been opened to another type of elder abuse that is happening to another family member I know of. I wish I could make it all stop. Elderly do NOT deserve the way they are being treated by others.

This New Family Member

Imagine a woman who was at one time very strong willed and filled with attitude. She was feisty, full of life, and more. Now, she can barely stand up because of malnutrition and is left alone in her home from 7 am until 4:30 pm daily by her husband. Due to her inability to stand up, she often uses the bathroom in her recliner, which is now stained black and soggy. Roaches have infested her home and crawl on her while she sits there. She has bedsores on her backside, one is the size of a half dollar and it isn’t being treated. Her husband has taken her off her medication, all of it…and has not filled a prescription for her in over a year, but he gives her medication twice daily. When asked, he says he gives her Tylenol and melatonin only. She has been beaten down by her living situation and says she is ready to leave this world. She doesn’t want to leave him because she is afraid of being alone. She doesn’t want to go to a rehab center to get back on her feet. We are still trying to get her out of that situation and I’m telling her son that if nothing else; he needs to go north to care for her. Otherwise, I fear that this strong and beautiful woman will no longer be there.

What Is the World Coming To?

People always said that I was abusive to my dad, but ultimately, he was abused by his entire family. This woman, no one said she was abused, but I saw it the moment we walked into her home. Her husband has her debit card and with a little effort, we discovered that he drains her account dry monthly. He eats at steak houses for lunch sometimes, but mostly its subway. She has lunchables available to eat and then he brings her home a twinky. The melatonin is a sleeping pill, so if he gives it to her as soon as he gets home, which he does, she is asleep before he has to cook dinner for her. Have all people lost their mind when it comes to elderly? What is going on with the world we live in when we are willing to hurt the people who need us the most? It has been proven that my dad died because of the abuse that he suffered…he wasn’t well enough to be completely on his own, but a nursing home wouldn’t take him after his brother took the property and I wasn’t close enough to ensure that he took his medications on a set schedule. His family murdered him because they were greedy. I know this woman will also suffer the same fate soon if something doesn’t change. It hurts my heart to know that she depends on her husband, the one who is starving her slowly…

We Have to Make It Stop

There are two people in my family tree that I know of who are or have been abused. They are both in their 70’s and it is being done by their family. It is time to make it stop. If you notice something isn’t right; report it. If you can get them out of it; do it. I’m wanting this woman out of her current situation…but I lack the authority to do anything for her. I’m trying to get her son to do what is right by her. She should be taken care of and loved…otherwise, another person will die because of abuse. Don’t let your family members become a statistic. They loved you and cared for you when you were little. Return the favor and show them that not all people are willing to hurt them in their final years. No one deserves the hell that can be placed on them when they are defenseless.

Times Are Tough

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Jack ParkinsonSince Jack Parkinson passed away, things have been crazy. I finally stopped crying over losing him, but it still does not seem real. I have his ashes sitting in my home, so I know that he isn’t coming back, but I still randomly think I wish someone would pinch me and wake me up from the nightmare. It hurts to not have him here with me. My dad drove me nuts for nearly 5 years. We had our ups and downs. We had our times of laughter and of anger.

Missing My Dad

At times I was so completely done fighting with him that I’d swear I wouldn’t spend another day trying to help him. But now, I’d give anything to talk to him for a few more minutes. I wish I could go back to the Tuesday before he passed away when in the car, we rode mostly in silence and then I rushed off that evening possibly without saying I love you. I’d go back and make sure that I told him I loved him. I’d go back and talk to him more that day. We were both preoccupied. I’d talk to him more once we got back to his house about the things he wanted to do once the property was returned to him. Hell, if I could go back to the Wednesday before he died; I’d go to his house and spend even more time talking to him.Jack Parkinson, Elderly Abuse

There are no takebacks, though. I cannot travel through time and make things right. I cannot say all that I want to say. I cannot go back and take more photos of him – just so I’d have them. It is not fair, but it is the way life works. It was NOT his time to go yet. God should have let him stay here for a little while longer. His great-grandchild loved him and so did everyone else he knew, but his great grand will not remember him. He should have had the chance to remember him.

The Price of Elder Abuse

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Missing Dad Makes Me Miss Mom More As Well

There is no doubt in my mind that the elderly abuse he suffered at the hands of the family is what ended his life. He wasn’t allowed to stay in a nursing home after surgery because he had no property. He wasn’t able to remember his medications, even though I laid them out in his pill container weekly. He wasn’t ready to function at home alone, but I was removed from the property. Part of me feels that because I told his brother that I’d move in with dad when he got home if he needed me to, was part of the reason that they attempted to kick him off the property. As far as I’m concerned, his death is on their hands. The sad part is; they will never face a murder charge. They will never face jail time for killing him. They will never suffer what he suffered and they will never lay in a bed for 24 hours after they have passed on; because no one cared enough to watch over him, except Allen and I and we were sent away from there to live in another county 40 miles away. Where is the justice for my dad?

A Touching Video

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I found this YouTube video…It is sad to watch, but I wanted to post it to show you that elder abuse is really an issue for a LOT of people.  😥 

 

An Age for Justice: Confronting Elder Abuse in America

My Dad Was Questioned…

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Yesterday my dad was questioned by the new property owner….They asked whether he was still falling down. My dad said honestly that he was. Had fallen the other day and hurt his hip. I think he shouldn’t be so honest with thieves. I expect an eviction to be legally posted soon. They say him falling is a liability, but not one of them will get off their butt to help him. I had told my uncle two days before he was released from the hospital that I’d move in with my dad if need be. Then the eviction came in and since I work and homeschool my son using a computer; it is not practical to move out there for a week. I also have that conversation recorded and am waiting to post it to see what happens next. I’d love to stop him from falling. They didn’t give him a chance to heal up or get his strength back after surgery and before the eviction notice. They didn’t give me a chance to move in and help him be stronger. If he has to move cause of them playing God over property that I will spend my life fighting for; they are dooming him to a camper or worse. They think the quality of his home is lacking right now….LOL Do they care? Doubt it. No one gives a shit about Jack Parkinson, but me.

Help Me Fight Against Elderly Abuse

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Elder abuse is considered the silent crime and every one of us is at risk for becoming a victim that is not reported or saved from the heartache that it can bring. The reason for it is simple; as we age, we need the people around us that we feel are there to help us. We depend on them. We trust them to be kind to us when daily life tasks become harder and harder to handle on our own. My anger was raised by Jack Parkinson’s family when they first stole from him because he trusted their word. They told him it was a loan and he agreed to sign the quit deed with the idea that he could have the property back when he paid for the loan that his brother had given him. Now, they are trying to remove him from the only home he has because he is man enough to stand up and say you screwed me over. Most elder abuse victims are not like my father. Most all cases go unreported. For every single theft of property by family members that is reported, thousands are never talked about. Why? Because no one knows where to start fighting. It is time to make it end. There are people out there who have gone to jail with felony charges for what they did to my dad. It is time to make it happen a little more often, so that people are less likely to take advantage of a person who needs and trusts in them. Do it now, do it before you have to suffer as thousands of other senior citizens have suffered. Help me fight to give elder abuse and the victims a voice.

Facing Facts about Senior Abuse

Elder mistreatment of a financial nature wasn’t even acknowledged as a crime until the 90s, when several elderly victims came forward to fight for their right to live their life without being victims. It is hard to prove and many victims throw up their hands and fear the repercussions of fighting back. Even my dad feared repercussions when his brother took his property, at first. But where my dad is stronger than some is the more they have done to hurt him, the more he has decided to fight back. Most people, like my dad, fear losing the family that hurts them because they choose to fight back. My dad has been lucky enough to see what they are and what kind of evil lurks within them…and he realizes that by losing them as family; he hasn’t lost much. He realizes that without being able to offer me a dime, I am still there for him. I still do everything that I can for him, without the prospect of gain. They gained and left him to die, try to force him from his home, and look down their nose at him. My dad knows that whether he has money or property, I am there to help him through anything that comes his way. It is time that our elders feel safe again. My dad’s family wasn’t the first people to victimize my dad, the first happened because he trusted a young woman who wiped out his bank account. That woman went to jail for what she did to him and many other elderly citizens in McIntosh. The same should be done to people who con him into signing away his property.

The Next Steps for Jack Parkinson

We have a lot of videos, text messages, and Facebook messages. All of them admit to deception by his family. People acknowledging that my dad was not mentally able to make decisions regarding his land and statements of we do not want the land. Statements of them owning/selling the land to keep my dad mixed up. All of it has been handed over to another lawyer. The lawyer says that there could be multiple trails in the near future. Deception, taking advantage of a person’s mental status, and many other charges are all punishable by jail time and extensive fines. In Georgia, the guilty parties can serve up to a year. Other states have stronger punishments and some have weaker punishments. We all believe that the video will hold up and that it will be admissible. The lawyers I spoke to when all of this first began were unsure. I have medical documents, statements from physicians, text, FB, and more and it is all going to come out. Even the fact the good nurse was told my dad did not want her near the property and they took it anyway, through deception and trickery by my dad’s family. We have to prove it. My dad’s lawyer thinks we have enough to get the ball rolling. I was threatened and told to keep certain names out of it…Their names will not be free of it much longer. My prayer is that they pay for the pain my dad has had to feel at their hands. They stole from him and then told him to play nice or else. All I’ve ever said to them is to leave my dad alone and let him live out the rest of his life on his land and when they took his land away, I let it slide. Now they want him removed from his home…That is not okay…and I want them all to be labeled for what they are…their day is coming. Justice in one elderly abuse case will be found. If it takes until my last breath to see it through. Laws have to be made more effective at preventing elder abuse.  I have my facts together…I really hope they have done their research as well.

Elderly Abuse by Family Members

Every day there are people being abused by family members. Our elderly will never be safe from it unless we start talking more about it and increasing the penalties for the abuse. This is not easy to do because as a general rule, our elderly generations are considered adults and capable of making up their own mind. My dad, was a proud man. He still is. He didn’t want to give away power of attorney and I was an idiot because I didn’t want to try to control his life. Had he done so; none of this would have happened to him. I trusted his family to not try to screw him over. I believed that his sister cared for him too much to allow her daughter and brother to steal from my dad. That the fact they are fine upstanding religious type folks, they were above deception to that extent. I made that mistake. My dad also made a mistake in believing in the people he considered family. As people in our world become more greedy and our elderly generations continue to live beyond the age of 60, this is not a crime that will stop without help. No senior citizen deserves it.

Look toward the future and think about the fact that you may one day also become a victim. Who do you want to fight for you? Do you want to be at the end of your life and lose everything you own? To have it taken from you under false pretenses by your family members who you spent your life caring for? I don’t know how to raise elder abuse awareness, but we all need to take a stand now to protect ourselves in the future. We have to start now, before more victims have to suffer as my father has. Share my website, get the word out there. You see that I am not asking for donations or contributions. I’m not asking for money. There are no advertisements on my pages. I’m asking purely for support to make sure that no one forgets Jack Parkinson, devoted husband, caring father, dementia patient, and elder abuse victim thanks to a family that he loved and helped out in the past.