It is beginning to look like we may have a few other charges to tack on to this situation with Jack Parkinson. It is more than a case of elderly abuse. The charges we are looking at now are much more impressive and could end up with a few of the crew being charged with misdemeanors and perhaps a felony or two. I wish that I could write about it here, but I do not want to say too much at this time for legal reasons. I wouldn’t want to give the offending parties a chance to find a wormhole to wiggle through. I am so glad that I am smart enough to look at all different aspects of a situation.
Learn More About Abuse of an Elder
The internet opens up a lot of doorways when it comes to finding valuable information. It goes way beyond elderly abuse data, which is where I have been stuck since all of this started. Elder abuse by family is what got this ball rolling, but every second of every day; I find other stuff to pin on them. Perhaps, even though I may not be able to make elderly abuse stick, I will be able to ensure they are all punished for other crimes that they have committed.
This website is an elder abuse journal. If you suspect that an elder family member or loved one is being abused; I recommend that you create a journal of what you are seeing as well. It could be the key to successfully ending the abuse before you end up suffering as my father has. Physical abuse of an elder is easy to prove. A single photo and a phone call to the police can do a lot to make it stop. The abusive person will immediately be punished by the law and restraining orders can be put on the person if they are free until a trial takes place. Other elderly abuse signs are not that easy to prove. You will need documents and you may even need to try and video things that are not quite right.
The Law Will Win and So Will Jack Parkinson
For years, I have used my cell phone to record negative things in my life and things that were happening to my dad. For more than 6 months, I have documented things that were going on in my dad’s life with his family. The dates are off because I had to rebuild this website, but the general facts are still there. Police records are being located so that I have further documentation of what all has gone on. My lawyer says that will be very helpful in the near future as a way to back up some of the things that have happened to my dad and myself. All of it will be turned over to them this week. I’ve stated quite clearly that I want someone to pay for what they have done…and I will not rest until they have. I don’t care if it is money for pain and suffering, jail time, or my dad getting the property that he loves back into his name.
The term elderly abuse should be put on a list that none of us is allowed to have to even think. It is a dirty word in my opinion. The problem is; to ignore it or pretend that it is not a problem, allows it to happen more often. To make it stop; we have to raise elderly abuse awareness. We have to show that our elder generations do not deserve what is happening to them. Each day, someone else becomes a victim and each day, someone gets away with it. Are you ready to take a stand and fight for your elders or yourself when the time comes? It starts now. Let us see what we can do for people, who like my father, have suffered; before they have to feel the pain that comes with elder abuse.
Raising Elder Abuse Awareness
There are several elder abuse risk factors that you need to be aware of. In the situation that my dad was subjected to; he was the perfect storm. Dementia and Depression. Had I been more aware of it, my dad may have stood a better chance to have his dying wishes come true. You see, his family told me before it happened what was going to happen. They wanted the land my father built. Pure and simple greed. I expected them to have a heart that would ensure they understood the devotion that my father and I had to the property. When he was diagnosed with dementia, he immediately became more susceptible to elder abuse and I never saw it coming. I was blind. Dementia is a primary risk factor. A person who has dementia is more trusting of their family because they depend on them more. My dad’s situation was a culmination of a lot of things. The family felt that I was neglectful and they didn’t like the people I had coming around my home. My dad would get upset with me over tiny things and they would dive in to try and convince him of bad stuff that I was going to do. For instance, talking about Allen being around the house and wanting to take possession of it so that he could turn it into a junkyard. At one time, my dad was convinced that I may be stealing from him. Within days of taking me off his checking account; my dad added me back to it because he knew that he had been wrong. A person with dementia can be convinced of anything, especially if the person talking to them is able to talk quickly. His brother has a smile that could charm serpents, and he uses it well. I’ve seen him try to twist my dad up on many occasions, the latest being the one that got eviction papers going. It is befitting that some call him a snake.
What Causes Elderly Abuse?
You may think that elderly abuse is black and white, but it isn’t clear-cut. Elder abuse happens because of a variety of reasons. Envy over what the elder has, physical abuse as a child under the now elderly person, and much more. Some people become abusive simply because they had too much to drink and got upset with the elder in their care. There could be a variety of reasons for the elder abuse to begin; in the case of my dad, it was family land that they didn’t feel myself, my son, or my father deserved. They all try to say I am a horrible caregiver for my father, but they have proven to be worse than me. I take him to doctors, I call him to check on him, I take him to buy groceries, and more. They simply give him an eviction notice. Since there aren’t any clear-cut elderly abuse causes; you have to think about the elderly people in your life and watch for changes in their behavior.
How to Spot Elder Abuse
Knowledge is power. If you suspect elder abuse, start checking things out. My dad was having mind games played on him long before D-day when his brother took him to a lawyer. I was blind…I ignored it. My dad would invite Allen over to the house or talk about me owning the property. He was saying he would sign it over to me “NOW” rather than have me wait for his death. Then, he would get so mad at me and say that I didn’t deserve the property and that Allen was trying to move in and he felt for sure that I was going to let it happen. It would change rapidly and it would be daily. He would tell me to invite Allen over and then get mad because Allen showed up. I’d tell Allen to stay away because I was catching hell for it, and dad would call him to say come over. I was the monkey in the middle and unable to do anything right. I found out later by my dad and this by his brother that during that time, his brother was saying Allen was going to move in and take over, trash up the yard, and more. I might have been able to stop it if only I had been more prepared to see it. I never dreamed family could be that cruel to one of their own. They say I didn’t deserve it. My dad lived in a dirty home. I admit it. I would clean it and he would immediately trash it. At least I gave him food when he wanted it and made sure he went to doctors when he was supposed to. They only helped him until they stole his land. I’ve been there even after he had nothing to give. Who do you think is the better person?
Other examples of elderly abuse may involve the elder having bruises or sores from abuse. They may become withdrawn. They may go from having money in their pocket to being broke or having to borrow money from others. They may have things that they value, personal property, that they give up to someone else even though you know that they wouldn’t be giving it up under normal circumstances. Abuse comes in so many different ways and there are no clear elderly abuse examples for you to follow or consider. You simply have to keep in mind that you know your loved one and if something does not seem right; chances are good that it isn’t right.
What happened to my dad is terrible. It is despicable what his family has done to him. No one deserves it, no one asks for it, and no one should have to deal with it. The messed-up part about it is; Jack Parkinson is not alone. There are people everywhere who, at the end of their life, have discovered that their family is their worst enemy. It is unfair, but it is something that most people seem to ignore. The ugly truth about elder abuse is that the world we live in fails to do anything about it.
What Is Elder Abuse?
According to Wikipedia the paraphrased, technical term for elder abuse is a single or repeated act that causes harm or distress to an older person, where there may have at one time been an expectation of trust. This shows that the elderly abuse definition implies that most all people who suffer from elder abuse are being abused by people that they trust in including; family members, caregivers, and friends. They need the help of those closest to them and then the other people take advantage of their needs.
If you look beyond that; the definition of elder abuse can be twisted and turned all around to meet specific needs. There is neglect, theft, physical abuse, and much more. It is anything that goes on to hurt the elderly.
Elder Abuse Statistics
When you look at the numbers, you will be astounded by the abuse that our older generations are suffering through. According to the National Council on Aging NCOA, approximately 1 in 10 Americans over the age of 60 will suffer from one type of abuse or another. There are estimates that as many as 5-million elders are being abused each year. If the person has a diagnosis of dementia; they increase their chances of abuse significantly.
Let Us Fight Elderly Abuse
The statistics for elderly abuse not good. Too many of our older generations, such as my dad, are victims. The people who do it are allowed to get away with it. There are no real consequences and it is hard to prove because of the “trust in family” thing that triggers their abuse. Our senior citizens are grown, they have the ability to think for themselves and make choices. That often hurts them, even if they were manipulated into making choices that they didn’t understand. In the case of Jack Parkinson, he was off medication, diagnosed with dementia, and had a UTI. Lawyers say, “he may not have been confused that day”. They are saying that he turned down $60,000.00 for his property 6-months before so that he could choose to give it away for nothing? Does that make logical sense to anyone else?
If we ever want the elderly abuse facts to change; we have to start working to change things. If someone were to steal from or abuse a child; they would be locked up without question. Why then was my dad’s brother able to steal his property, and no one has paid the price for it yet? Help me fight against elderly abuse. Join in my fight to ensure that no one forgets what was done to my dad and perhaps one day; no one will have to deal with abuse by their own family. Don’t be like me and wait until it hurts your grandparents or your parents. Let’s take a stand and start telling people the truth about elderly abuse.
Hello, and welcome to my website. I sincerely hope that I can turn this into something beneficial for a lot of people and I do want to welcome anyone who visits.
This blog is going to be devoted to people who are a victim of abuse, especially elderly abuse, but really it can be about all abuse cases. You see, what has compelled me to write it is the simple fact that my father has become a victim of abuse by his own family. The people he grew up with and the brother he trusted completely. Because of that trust in his brother, my uncle (though I wish I could erase the fact we share the same genetics), and that brother’s wife, my dad has lost everything he spent 30 years of his life working for. I lost my home, the same home my parents built from the ground up and the home she passed away inside of, just 4 years ago, with me standing beside her in the living room.
The family deemed me unworthy of living there, even though I was the ONLY one there taking care of my father. My “UNCLE’S” wife admittedly overdosed my dad on his medication. IN front of a judge at my eviction hearing, (yes I tried to fight my removal) they promised to care for him and allow him to get things from the house that he wanted after I left. All they have done for him is fed him once, cleaned out his fridge once, and sold the property to someone else in the family. They are driving around in new cars, while my father sits and feels deceived.
I will talk more about his story in the coming days and then I hope to hear from others about their situation. Together we will strive to make those who have someone special in their family, fight for their safety instead of abusing them. Together we will celebrate the elderly and try to stand up for them. Even if it does not help the ones who are suffering today, my wish is that eventually, the abuse will end. For that reason, and that reason alone, I dedicate this entire blog to my father, Jack Parkinson of Meridian, GA., and his late wife, the greatest woman who ever lived, Patricia Johnson Parkinson.