Seeking Justice for My Dad

End Elderly Abuse

It is beginning to look like we may have a few other charges to tack on to this situation with Jack Parkinson. It is more than a case of elderly abuse. The charges we are looking at now are much more impressive and could end up with a few of the crew being charged with misdemeanors and perhaps a felony or two. I wish that I could write about it here, but I do not want to say too much at this time for legal reasons. I wouldn’t want to give the offending parties a chance to find a wormhole to wiggle through. I am so glad that I am smart enough to look at all different aspects of a situation.

Learn More About Abuse of an Elder

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I found this on the web and I’m unsure of who to give credit to, but thank you. It is something I remind myself of constantly and I hope it is within my reach.

The internet opens up a lot of doorways when it comes to finding valuable information. It goes way beyond elderly abuse data, which is where I have been stuck since all of this started. Elder abuse by family is what got this ball rolling, but every second of every day; I find other stuff to pin on them. Perhaps, even though I may not be able to make elderly abuse stick, I will be able to ensure they are all punished for other crimes that they have committed.

This website is an elder abuse journal. If you suspect that an elder family member or loved one is being abused; I recommend that you create a journal of what you are seeing as well. It could be the key to successfully ending the abuse before you end up suffering as my father has. Physical abuse of an elder is easy to prove. A single photo and a phone call to the police can do a lot to make it stop. The abusive person will immediately be punished by the law and restraining orders can be put on the person if they are free until a trial takes place. Other elderly abuse signs are not that easy to prove. You will need documents and you may even need to try and video things that are not quite right.

The Law Will Win and So Will Jack Parkinson

For years, I have used my cell phone to record negative things in my life and things that were happening to my dad. For more than 6 months, I have documented things that were going on in my dad’s life with his family. The dates are off because I had to rebuild this website, but the general facts are still there. Police records are being located so that I have further documentation of what all has gone on. My lawyer says that will be very helpful in the near future as a way to back up some of the things that have happened to my dad and myself. All of it will be turned over to them this week. I’ve stated quite clearly that I want someone to pay for what they have done…and I will not rest until they have. I don’t care if it is money for pain and suffering, jail time, or my dad getting the property that he loves back into his name.

Help Me Fight Against Elderly Abuse

End Elderly Abuse

Elder abuse is considered the silent crime and every one of us is at risk for becoming a victim that is not reported or saved from the heartache that it can bring. The reason for it is simple; as we age, we need the people around us that we feel are there to help us. We depend on them. We trust them to be kind to us when daily life tasks become harder and harder to handle on our own. My anger was raised by Jack Parkinson’s family when they first stole from him because he trusted their word. They told him it was a loan and he agreed to sign the quit deed with the idea that he could have the property back when he paid for the loan that his brother had given him. Now, they are trying to remove him from the only home he has because he is man enough to stand up and say you screwed me over. Most elder abuse victims are not like my father. Most all cases go unreported. For every single theft of property by family members that is reported, thousands are never talked about. Why? Because no one knows where to start fighting. It is time to make it end. There are people out there who have gone to jail with felony charges for what they did to my dad. It is time to make it happen a little more often, so that people are less likely to take advantage of a person who needs and trusts in them. Do it now, do it before you have to suffer as thousands of other senior citizens have suffered. Help me fight to give elder abuse and the victims a voice.

Facing Facts about Senior Abuse

Elder mistreatment of a financial nature wasn’t even acknowledged as a crime until the 90s, when several elderly victims came forward to fight for their right to live their life without being victims. It is hard to prove and many victims throw up their hands and fear the repercussions of fighting back. Even my dad feared repercussions when his brother took his property, at first. But where my dad is stronger than some is the more they have done to hurt him, the more he has decided to fight back. Most people, like my dad, fear losing the family that hurts them because they choose to fight back. My dad has been lucky enough to see what they are and what kind of evil lurks within them…and he realizes that by losing them as family; he hasn’t lost much. He realizes that without being able to offer me a dime, I am still there for him. I still do everything that I can for him, without the prospect of gain. They gained and left him to die, try to force him from his home, and look down their nose at him. My dad knows that whether he has money or property, I am there to help him through anything that comes his way. It is time that our elders feel safe again. My dad’s family wasn’t the first people to victimize my dad, the first happened because he trusted a young woman who wiped out his bank account. That woman went to jail for what she did to him and many other elderly citizens in McIntosh. The same should be done to people who con him into signing away his property.

The Next Steps for Jack Parkinson

We have a lot of videos, text messages, and Facebook messages. All of them admit to deception by his family. People acknowledging that my dad was not mentally able to make decisions regarding his land and statements of we do not want the land. Statements of them owning/selling the land to keep my dad mixed up. All of it has been handed over to another lawyer. The lawyer says that there could be multiple trails in the near future. Deception, taking advantage of a person’s mental status, and many other charges are all punishable by jail time and extensive fines. In Georgia, the guilty parties can serve up to a year. Other states have stronger punishments and some have weaker punishments. We all believe that the video will hold up and that it will be admissible. The lawyers I spoke to when all of this first began were unsure. I have medical documents, statements from physicians, text, FB, and more and it is all going to come out. Even the fact the good nurse was told my dad did not want her near the property and they took it anyway, through deception and trickery by my dad’s family. We have to prove it. My dad’s lawyer thinks we have enough to get the ball rolling. I was threatened and told to keep certain names out of it…Their names will not be free of it much longer. My prayer is that they pay for the pain my dad has had to feel at their hands. They stole from him and then told him to play nice or else. All I’ve ever said to them is to leave my dad alone and let him live out the rest of his life on his land and when they took his land away, I let it slide. Now they want him removed from his home…That is not okay…and I want them all to be labeled for what they are…their day is coming. Justice in one elderly abuse case will be found. If it takes until my last breath to see it through. Laws have to be made more effective at preventing elder abuse.  I have my facts together…I really hope they have done their research as well.

Elderly Abuse by Family Members

Every day there are people being abused by family members. Our elderly will never be safe from it unless we start talking more about it and increasing the penalties for the abuse. This is not easy to do because as a general rule, our elderly generations are considered adults and capable of making up their own mind. My dad, was a proud man. He still is. He didn’t want to give away power of attorney and I was an idiot because I didn’t want to try to control his life. Had he done so; none of this would have happened to him. I trusted his family to not try to screw him over. I believed that his sister cared for him too much to allow her daughter and brother to steal from my dad. That the fact they are fine upstanding religious type folks, they were above deception to that extent. I made that mistake. My dad also made a mistake in believing in the people he considered family. As people in our world become more greedy and our elderly generations continue to live beyond the age of 60, this is not a crime that will stop without help. No senior citizen deserves it.

Look toward the future and think about the fact that you may one day also become a victim. Who do you want to fight for you? Do you want to be at the end of your life and lose everything you own? To have it taken from you under false pretenses by your family members who you spent your life caring for? I don’t know how to raise elder abuse awareness, but we all need to take a stand now to protect ourselves in the future. We have to start now, before more victims have to suffer as my father has. Share my website, get the word out there. You see that I am not asking for donations or contributions. I’m not asking for money. There are no advertisements on my pages. I’m asking purely for support to make sure that no one forgets Jack Parkinson, devoted husband, caring father, dementia patient, and elder abuse victim thanks to a family that he loved and helped out in the past.

The Elderly Abuse Drama Never Ends…

It is sad when the lies between family members can pit one brother against another. A person was standing up to his brother in defense of the lies being told about my dad and two brothers are now angry with one another. I don’t know what all was said, but it is pathetic. My dad’s brother lied. They are saying that the nursy niece put the eviction on my dad cause of things that were said to her and her dearly beloved, but they were not there for the incident that led to my father receiving an eviction notice. It is clear who told them…they are all thick as thieves and about as saintly as one, but now family drama abounds even more.

My dad still has no place to go. Nowhere to call home. I do not know what is going to happen, but I can say that even if I get inend elderly abuse trouble I’m about to start listing names. I contacted another lawyer…she is supposed to help me with names of others who may be able to help out my dad. It is bad when a lawyer will tell you that there is some crazy stuff going on and volunteer to help you out without charging you for the services that they have to offer. Luckily, she is also a high dollar, excellent lawyer. I pray the brother, sis-in-law, niece, and man all end up paying for what they have done. Their deceptions are unending…and they are nothing but a pack of liars. Even worse when it starts to turn more brothers against brothers.

Messed up part is; it is all because the family feels that my dad is not a good person or that I’m not a good person. My parents didn’t build a nice enough house, my dad drinks too much, I don’t have a large enough bank account to have earned my place on my parents land, my dad didn’t loan them enough money that they could refuse to pay back…something. Maybe dad’s sister wasn’t married enough times or I wasn’t married enough times so that I could keep up with her and therefore I’m unworthy? There has got to be something that they feel I’ve done, beyond have an affair 7-years-ago and give birth to a beautiful little boy. I’m not sure but it is all about the land and it is all about their hatefulness….

Elder Abuse is Everywhere…

End Elderly Abuse

Today, January 24. I just put in a search for elderly abuse. In doing research that is what I do. I discover and I snoop and I look around to get the facts that are available to me. On a google search, I find headlines that were listed today….The Times-Gazette in io talking about elder abuse being prevalent. A woman being hit by a nurse on ABC13. And another on the Detroit Free Press. Does anyone else find this as repulsive as I do? As a society of people, human beings, how could we let it get to the point where our elderly are beat, robbed, and victimized on a daily basis? Are there any good people in the world still yet? Or all we just waiting on our final years to be victimized?

Jack Parkinson, didn’t ask for the hand that he was dealt and neither did the people who are like him. He didn’t ask to live his life planning for his final years to be content ones. He wanted to be a man who owned property until his dying days. His family took that from him and its nothing compared to some of the other abuse stories out there. It breaks my heart to know that so many are suffering. I am soon going to be 41…I’m a mom and a grandparent. If news reports are accurate and 1 in 9 elderly person will become a victim with perhaps as many as 5 reported cases going unreported for every one that is; what does that mean for my generation? Those of us who still have a few years to go before we turn 60 and our chances of being abused increase? It is terrifying to consider and kind of makes you question what do we fight so hard for in our life if we know that one day someone will decide that they want what we have and take it from us simply because they do not approve of our ways or feel that we are inadequate?

Raise Elder Abuse Awareness Before It Hurts Your Family

End Elderly Abuse

The term elderly abuse should be put on a list that none of us is allowed to have to even think. It is a dirty word in my opinion. The problem is; to ignore it or pretend that it is not a problem, allows it to happen more often. To make it stop; we have to raise elderly abuse awareness. We have to show that our elder generations do not deserve what is happening to them. Each day, someone else becomes a victim and each day, someone gets away with it. Are you ready to take a stand and fight for your elders or yourself when the time comes? It starts now. Let us see what we can do for people, who like my father, have suffered; before they have to feel the pain that comes with elder abuse.

Raising Elder Abuse Awareness

There are several elder abuse risk factors that you need to be aware of. In the situation that my dad was subjected to; he was the perfect storm. Dementia and Depression. Had I been more aware of it, my dad may have stood a better chance to have his dying wishes come true. You see, his family told me before it happened what was going to happen. They wanted the land my father built. Pure and simple greed. I expected them to have a heart that would ensure they understood the devotion that my father and I had to the property. When he was diagnosed with dementia, he immediately became more susceptible to elder abuse and I never saw it coming. I was blind. Dementia is a primary risk factor. A person who has dementia is more trusting of their family because they depend on them more. My dad’s situation was a culmination of a lot of things. The family felt that I was neglectful and they didn’t like the people I had coming around my home. My dad would get upset with me over tiny things and they would dive in to try and convince him of bad stuff that I was going to do. For instance, talking about Allen being around the house and wanting to take possession of it so that he could turn it into a junkyard. At one time, my dad was convinced that I may be stealing from him. Within days of taking me off his checking account; my dad added me back to it because he knew that he had been wrong. A person with dementia can be convinced of anything, especially if the person talking to them is able to talk quickly. His brother has a smile that could charm serpents, and he uses it well. I’ve seen him try to twist my dad up on many occasions, the latest being the one that got eviction papers going. It is befitting that some call him a snake.

What Causes Elderly Abuse?

You may think that elderly abuse is black and white, but it isn’t clear-cut. Elder abuse happens because of a variety of reasons. Envy over what the elder has, physical abuse as a child under the now elderly person, and much more. Some people become abusive simply because they had too much to drink and got upset with the elder in their care. There could be a variety of reasons for the elder abuse to begin; in the case of my dad, it was family land that they didn’t feel myself, my son, or my father deserved. They all try to say I am a horrible caregiver for my father, but they have proven to be worse than me. I take him to doctors, I call him to check on him, I take him to buy groceries, and more. They simply give him an eviction notice. Since there aren’t any clear-cut elderly abuse causes; you have to think about the elderly people in your life and watch for changes in their behavior.

How to Spot Elder Abuse

Knowledge is power. If you suspect elder abuse, start checking things out. My dad was having mind games played on him long before D-day when his brother took him to a lawyer. I was blind…I ignored it. My dad would invite Allen over to the house or talk about me owning the property. He was saying he would sign it over to me “NOW” rather than have me wait for his death. Then, he would get so mad at me and say that I didn’t deserve the property and that Allen was trying to move in and he felt for sure that I was going to let it happen. It would change rapidly and it would be daily. He would tell me to invite Allen over and then get mad because Allen showed up. I’d tell Allen to stay away because I was catching hell for it, and dad would call him to say come over. I was the monkey in the middle and unable to do anything right. I found out later by my dad and this by his brother that during that time, his brother was saying Allen was going to move in and take over, trash up the yard, and more. I might have been able to stop it if only I had been more prepared to see it. I never dreamed family could be that cruel to one of their own. They say I didn’t deserve it. My dad lived in a dirty home. I admit it. I would clean it and he would immediately trash it. At least I gave him food when he wanted it and made sure he went to doctors when he was supposed to. They only helped him until they stole his land. I’ve been there even after he had nothing to give. Who do you think is the better person?

Other examples of elderly abuse may involve the elder having bruises or sores from abuse. They may become withdrawn. They may go from having money in their pocket to being broke or having to borrow money from others. They may have things that they value, personal property, that they give up to someone else even though you know that they wouldn’t be giving it up under normal circumstances. Abuse comes in so many different ways and there are no clear elderly abuse examples for you to follow or consider. You simply have to keep in mind that you know your loved one and if something does not seem right; chances are good that it isn’t right.

The Ugly Truth About Elder Abuse

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What happened to my dad is terrible. It is despicable what his family has done to him. No one deserves it, no one asks for it, and no one should have to deal with it. The messed-up part about it is; Jack Parkinson is not alone. There are people everywhere who, at the end of their life, have discovered that their family is their worst enemy. It is unfair, but it is something that most people seem to ignore. The ugly truth about elder abuse is that the world we live in fails to do anything about it.

What Is Elder Abuse?

According to Wikipedia the paraphrased, technical term for elder abuse is a single or repeated act that causes harm or distress to an older person, where there may have at one time been an expectation of trust. This shows that the elderly abuse definition implies that most all people who suffer from elder abuse are being abused by people that they trust in including; family members, caregivers, and friends. They need the help of those closest to them and then the other people take advantage of their needs.

If you look beyond that; the definition of elder abuse can be twisted and turned all around to meet specific needs. There is neglect, theft, physical abuse, and much more. It is anything that goes on to hurt the elderly.

Elder Abuse Statistics

When you look at the numbers, you will be astounded by the abuse that our older generations are suffering through. According to the National Council on Aging NCOA, approximately 1  in 10 Americans over the age of 60 will suffer from one type of abuse or another. There are estimates that as many as 5-million elders are being abused each year. If the person has a diagnosis of dementia; they increase their chances of abuse significantly.

Let Us Fight Elderly Abuse

The statistics for elderly abuse not good. Too many of our older generations, such as my dad, are victims. The people who do it are allowed to get away with it. There are no real consequences and it is hard to prove because of the “trust in family” thing that triggers their abuse. Our senior citizens are grown, they have the ability to think for themselves and make choices. That often hurts them, even if they were manipulated into making choices that they didn’t understand. In the case of Jack Parkinson, he was off medication, diagnosed with dementia, and had a UTI. Lawyers say, “he may not have been confused that day”. They are saying that he turned down $60,000.00 for his property 6-months before so that he could choose to give it away for nothing? Does that make logical sense to anyone else?

If we ever want the elderly abuse facts to change; we have to start working to change things. If someone were to steal from or abuse a child; they would be locked up without question. Why then was my dad’s brother able to steal his property, and no one has paid the price for it yet? Help me fight against elderly abuse. Join in my fight to ensure that no one forgets what was done to my dad and perhaps one day; no one will have to deal with abuse by their own family. Don’t be like me and wait until it hurts your grandparents or your parents. Let’s take a stand and start telling people the truth about elderly abuse.